Building Your Self Confidence

When you are trying to build your confidence you have to push yourself, nobody else is going to push you as hard as you will yourself and if you want it bad enough, if you want that confidence and to be more assertive then you have to set your goals high. You can’t say, well I will start a diet when I get to this point, or I will stop smoking when I get to that point…you need to say I am going to do it NOW, if I don’t do it now I will never do it! I am going to start putting myself out there in someone uncomfortable situations so that I can break out of my shell.

First of all, consider that part of your self-esteem problem may come from things that have happened to you in your life that you had no control over. Maybe your parents didn’t do their part to help you build self-confidence. It may be that another influential person in your life made you feel unimportant or insignificant at some point and you never moved past it. There are so many reasons that your self-confidence could be suffering. It may or may not be important for you to figure out why you feel that way, but it IS VITAL that you find a way to fight it.

That’s why one of the first things you need to do is set your expectations well above the proverbial bar. Why should there be anything that you can’t do?  Decide what you want to do and be in life and then set about doing the things that will get you where you want to be. Refuse to let anything hold you back and that includes any preconceived ideas you may have had planted in your head over the years.

If everyone started out the same, it’s interesting to see how each individual’s life is affected by their environment. You may be someone that floats through life with nothing ever fazing him or her. That person may also have the confidence to try anything at least once. This is the person that you most likely aspire to be and there’s no reason that you can’t be exactly like that, only in YOUR own way and not theirs.

Sit down and list the things about yourself that you like. Focus on those things for a while as you start to understand that you’ve got some amazing traits that everyone would want to have. When you’ve digested those characteristics that make you awesome, make a list of the things you’re not so crazy about. Spend some time with those, too, as you try to figure out why you don’t like those traits. Once you’ve got the answers to that question, decide what you can do to change and improve those things.

Setting your expectations where you want them to be and then climbing the ladder to reach them is what makes you take the development of your self-confidence to the next level. Play some mind games with yourself until you understand that you’re just as deserving of high level self-confidence as anyone else. You’ll understand the feeling of believing you can have anything you want out of life.