How Hearing The Right Words Can Change Your Life!

Have you ever been talking to someone, or listening to a radio show or watching a TV program and someone says something that just hits home, makes so much sense you wonder why you had never heard of it before or even thought of it yourself? It happens, in the blink of an eye one sentence or phrase and boom you know exactly what you are suppose to do or be doing or where you should be in life and how to get there. It’s amazing how it usually happens right when you need it most. Sometimes reminding yourself of these words is all you need to give yourself a boost.

The words you’ll use to boost your self-confidence aren’t the words spoken to you by others. These are words that you will write and speak to yourself. They’re called affirmations and can be some of the most effective means in raising the self-confidence of someone. Affirmations are easy to create and even simpler to put to use.

To begin with, target the areas of yourself and your life that you’re not quite happy with or you feel needs some improving.  For instance, if you’re not pleased with something about your appearance, focus on something that you ARE happy with. Maybe you feel that you need to lose a bit of weight but you have a very pretty or handsome face. Focus on that beautiful smile. Then, every morning when you get up and before you go to bed every night, look at yourself in the mirror and say something along the lines of “I have a very beautiful smile and it is this smile that people will see when they look at me. My beautiful smile will draw the people I want into my life.” Of course, you’ll want to make it more personal, but you get the idea.

These affirmations are necessary in helping you to remember that there ARE some very attractive qualities about you and that those are the ones that you need to focus on bringing out to the forefront. When you’re positive about something and can use that positivity, you’ll find that people will WANT to be around you because you produce such great energy. In other words, draw attention away from the fact that you may be packing a few extra pounds, for example, by showing off that great smile and your warm personality. People flock to that sort of thing.

Haven’t you ever noticed those great looking guys that are partnered with women that are less than a 5 on The Scale? Those women may not be physically beautiful but they’ve found a way to bring their inner beauty to the outside. You can do that as well. All you have to do is a little mind work. Write down affirmations that apply to what you’re trying to accomplish. These can be recited as often as you wish or feel that you need them. The more positive energy that you put out the more that will come back to you. Soon, you’ll only be aware of that gorgeous smile and that extra weight will be a secondary concern that you can take care of when you have a chance. This can work the same way with whatever you want to change about yourself.

Self Confidence Secrets

One of the biggest problems people with low self confidence have is facing new and unfamiliar situations, which is why many times they get stuck in a rut, in a comfortable and familiar surroundings, whether it is where they are living or where they are working, the thought of going forward is scary.  The thing these types of people need to know is that they HAVE to make that first step in order to build their confidence and get to where they want to be in life.  Here are some ideas to help you make that first step to total self confidence:

Get to know yourself: If you’re going to learn how to effectively deal with people, you must be aware of where your strengths and weaknesses are, socially speaking. When you know what your positive traits are you’re in a good position to use them when connecting with others. This lets you know what you can offer to someone else besides just the pleasure of your company. Discover your strengths and how to best use them.

Step outside of your comfort zone: It’s natural for people to be more comfortable staying where they’re most familiar. However, if you don’t push your own boundaries a bit, you’ll become stagnant. You must get out and try some new things and meet some new people. Develop new skills and join new groups for different activities. When you learn new things and discover that you can do them well, your confidence will benefit from a definite boost. You’ll also have a new forum where you can express yourself.

Follow through with your plans: Go through your Things to Do List and figure out which listings you can complete and cross off the fastest. Just starting to finish things that you’ve wanted to do will immediately help you think more highly of yourself. Don’t depend on others to help you and stop letting yourself get caught in the shadows of others. As you complete things on your own, your reputation improves and your self-confidence builds.

Learn to accept and appreciate the person that you are: Explore your own little idiosyncrasies and figure out how to handle them. It’s also helpful if you can look for ways that you can use your individuality. You may be very surprised at the way others react to your unique traits. For instance, something you may have deemed an irritation may actually be endearing to other people, and there’s certainly nothing wrong with that. When you can become confident with the person you are and the skills you have, you’ll be well on your way to having the self-esteem that you always wanted.  If you’ve got some traits and habits that you can’t change, then you need to use them to your advantage as long as you’re not encroaching on the territory of others.

The thing you need to remember above everything else is to love yourself. If you can do that, you can accept everything about yourself, which will go a long way to building your self-confidence.

Self Help Books-Do They Help?

I don’t know about you, but I can’t even count on 2 hands all the self help books we have accumulated! I am saying we have MANY. Do they help? For awhile, they give us a new way to look at situations and how to deal with others as they come along.  The trick to self help books is that you have to DO what they tell you to! You start reading, you feel great, a lot of what they are saying really does make sense. Then they tell you what you need to do to get to where you want to be, and you might even start out doing those things, but after awhile when things just aren’t changing fast enough you drop the new routine and you are right back in a rut again.

Self-help books have been around for decades and have made quite a lot of people very rich because of it. Has it been able to help some people? Sure, it probably has, but if it was able to help everyone be better people, then why are there so many books out there? You would think that you would need to purchase one book and that would be it. Well the answer to you living a better life isn’t going to be found in a book that you just dropped $29.95 for.

If you really want to help yourself to a better life, then the first thing you are going to need to do is get off your butt and do something. Reading a book is great for entertainment, relaxation, and gathering knowledge, but unless you are using a self-help book to smack yourself in the head to get up and actually change your life, they are useless. Save your money and focus on the things you need to do to make yourself happier. Wow, that was pretty simple, and you didn’t have to drop a load of cash to read about it.

If your job is making you stressed and you can’t sleep at night, then find another job. What, there aren’t any jobs out there because of the economy is crashing and you don’t want to flip burgers? So, start your own business and get over it. You have talents that you can use so why not put those talents and passions to work for yourself? Remember when you were a child and you had big dreams about what you were going to do when you grew up? What happened to those dreams, and why aren’t you doing what you wanted to do back then?

Life is about the experiences you have. So, if all of your experiences are bad, then your life is pretty much in the crapper from there on out. Find the things you love in life and go after them. Put the passion you have in your heart to work for you and change your life around so that you can finally be happy. If an obstacle appears before you, dig your feet in and move that obstacle out of your way. You don’t have to sit back and accept the life you have. Get up and change it to the one you want instead.