Positive Thinking

When it comes to depression the more you think about being depressed or what is making you depressed the worse it gets. You need to stop thinking about the negative things in your life and start thinking about the positives. I know you are probably saying there is nothing positive in your life at the moment but stop and think real hard. Family, friends, health, a home, food, a pet…there has to be something that is positive. You can see, hear, walk, talk…there is always something. You might not be exactly where you want to be at the moment, but thinking about what is good in your life can help tremendously!

You may be thinking that this is not possible; that just thoughts will not change anything for you. That’s where you would be incredibly wrong. It doesn’t matter whether or not you believe in things like energy for it to work. The fact is that the sort of thoughts you dwell on and the words you speak affect how you feel. For example, if you’ve got some sort of special occasion that you need to attend and you’re just positive that something will go horribly wrong, chances are that it will pour rain on that night and you’ll have a flat tire on the way. By the time you arrive at the special event, it will be at least thirty minutes late and you’ll resemble a drowned rat. The fact that you worried so much about it may very well have sealed your fate.

Consider that the negative energy that you send out to the Universe about anything in your life can go a long way to bringing just that to you. The great news is that it also works the other way. When you think good thoughts, you’re sending out positive energy for this same Universe to react to. In that way, you’re much more likely to bring good things into your life.

This is something that anyone feeling down and depressed about something specific or just life in general should keep in mind. The more you allow yourself to wallow in your bad mood, the more you’re likely to feel worse about everything. On the other hand, even if you have to force yourself, only allow some good thoughts to enter your head. When you find yourself thinking you’re fat and unattractive, focus on your good qualities. You may have gorgeous eyes or great hair or a beautiful smile. Concentrate on those traits and don’t allow yourself to think about the traits you have that you dislike. You can figure out how to change those later. First, you must start looking in a positive direction.

The less negative thoughts you allow to enter your head the better you’re going to start feeling about yourself and your life. Granted, this may not have the same immediate effect on you as, say, a Valium or Xanax would, but thinking good thoughts will have a much more permanent effect on your life and how you view it. Once you start driving away any bad thoughts and only letting in positive ones, you’re going to notice an improvement such as you never thought you would experience. Start thinking those good thoughts without delay and you’ll never look back.

Self Realization In This Crazy World

Everyone knows that if you want something bad enough and put your mind to it you will get it done. We have seen it time and time again and have even done it ourselves several times. But when you have doubt it takes away from what you are wanting to accomplish. Knowing how to start, the steps you need to take to realize your goals is the first step in making your dreams come true!

Now, there are some people out there that will tell you that positive visualization and thinking will give you what you need to realize that you are a decent person and the sky is the limit. That works for a lot of people out there, the ones that have the time to sit comfortably in a dimly lit room with incense and candles meditating on the things they would like to have happen or change in their lives. So what about the rest of the population that have no dimly lit room, no incense, no candles, and no time to meditate?

The best thing you can do to find self-realization is to act positively to as many people as you possibly can during your daily routine. Yes, there are going to be those people out there that will test your limits and instead of yelling, screaming, cursing, or bashing them in the head with a stick, you will need to think on the positive side. How do you do that with those people? Simple; think of how great it is that you are not one of those people and no one wants to smack you on a regular basis.

If you can manage to make it through at least one week of thinking and acting positively towards the people around you, even the ones you would prefer not to, then there is a very good chance that the positive thinking will accumulate into the self-realization that you are actually a good person. When you start believing that you are a good person, then you will start to see good things happen to you in your life. After that, it’s just a hop, skip, and a jump over to the fact that you can do anything you put your mind to.

If you feel like you are going to be stressed out from being nice to all these people on a daily basis, then you need to find a hobby that you can release that stress with. This should be something a bit aggressive as far as your energy goes. Putting together model ships in a bottle will only aggravate you and cause you frustration at this point. Look more towards the shooting range, boxing, martial arts, or aspects that will give you a physical exhaustion point that will make you too tired to deal with other people’s attitudes. Then, you will be as happy as you have ever been and will flourish in your life.

Motivating Yourself To Succeed

In order for you to succeed you need to motivate yourself and not give up! One little set back and you could be starting all over, but if you push yourself to not let the little things bring you down you or keep you from moving forward and getting what you want in life.  If one set back brings you crashing down to where you just can’t get back up again then you have a lot of work to do but the good news is YOU CAN DO IT!

What is Motivation?

Many believe that motivation often comes from somewhere else. It could be a friend or a family member, pushing you to do more. It could be mentors or superiors, helping you push forward into greatness. It could also be an unfortunate situation, that is strongly inspiring you to be more and do more.

These motivational sources are effective but they can be temporary. It is quite easy for one to lose grip of things, so you need to establish something strong and permanent. You need to learn how to do away with the external factors, and achieve the desired level of motivation on your own accord.

Enemies of Self-Motivation

If you often find yourself struggling with motivation, then something must be wrong. Maybe you have fears that are controlling you and causing you to move back. Maybe you are becoming a strong critic of yourself and you have already succeeded in discouraging your own self. Maybe you are just lacking true belief in yourself. You lack confidence and you are quick to back out on opportunities that you find threatening. Maybe you have failed before and you are afraid to make another mistake. If any of these issues are familiar to you, you have to start getting yourself motivated.

Useful Self Motivation Techniques

Set your goals straight. What is it that you want to achieve? Always, it is important that you know what you want, so that you can go for it. Always follow one direction of movement — and that is moving towards your goal. If you lose your way, just pick yourself up again, and move on.

Find inspiration. These may be people and events from which you can gain good perspective from. It is nice if you are able to surround yourself with these kinds of personalities because they are positive influences. They will help you become the person that you ought to become.

Learn to recognize rewards and blessings. Instead of focussing on the things that bring you down, why not look at the bright side of things and focus on what you have done well and have achieved. It is discomforting to have to look at mistakes, failures and errors, so why should you focus on that?

Visualize success. When you are able to see yourself victorious, it makes everything seem attainable. Do not limit yourself by saying “you cannot”. Instead, allow yourself to unravel your dreams, if only just with your mind.

Personal Awareness and Growth

When you have a conversation with friends and you listen to their stories of how they grew up, where they went to school, how their childhood was, does it mimick your own or is there a drastic difference? Do you wonder if the reason you are in life at the moment is directly related to how you grew up and that the reason they are further ahead in life is because of how they grew up? We aren’t talking about being born into money or affluance, but just normal everyday people living totally different lives.  In order to know where we are going in life we have to be aware of where we have been and how we got to where we are today.

Importance of Self-Awareness

Before you can effectively achieve some transformation in your life, it is important that you are self-aware. Self-awareness is the first step to change; you have to make yourself aware of your current situation, your problems, your strengths and your weaknesses. It is important that you know yourself completely so that you can make proper changes, where change is needed. It is important that you know yourself and you know what the problem is, so that you can address the situation better.

How to Develop Self-Awareness

It is not easy but it is not impossible to develop self-awareness if you do not have it yet. There is no shortcut that you can take, for sure, but there are strategies that you can take:

Learn to observe and monitor your life. Be more aware of what is happenings and study how these things are affecting your life.

Think more of yourself, for a change. Stop looking at other people; stop looking at them and comparing yourself because it will not do you any good. Instead of focussing on other people, look at your life and see what could be done to make things better. Think of yourself, focus on what you can do and not what others are abl to do for their lives.

Learn to embrace everything about yourself. May it be the bad or the good, you will need to learn to accept yourself for who you truly are, because when you are able to do that, then you will see that it will be easier for other people to embrace who you are, as well. It is not easy to accept one’s self completely. It is easier to pick on whatever you see about yourself but you have to learn to embrace everything so that you can move on, move forward and use it, for your own benefit.

Explore your strengths and weakness. People have their own strengths and weaknesses. Some people will have things that they are good at and you have to be aware of them; and some people will have things that they are insufficient in, and you have to face these, too, however difficult. It is important for you to face the truth because when you know yourself through and through, you can enhance your strengths so that you can use it and you can improve your weaknesses, so that you can seek to become so much better than who you are today.

Are You Living Up To Your Potential?

Have you ever had someone or maybe more than one person tell you that you aren’t living up to your potential? Maybe you have a talent or asked you why you were doing/working where you are when you obviously could be doing so much better! If you have heard this before or even told yourself these things maybe you are right! Many times we settle because we don’t think we are worthy of more. So are you growing into the person you want to be?

Signs of Growth

How do you know that your life is going in the right path? Sometimes in your jouryney, it is easy for you to lose track of things, but you need to find a way to recollect and see how well or how badly you are doing. Being aware of your pace of growth and development is important because awareness is key, when change is necessary.

Here are some of the significant growth signs you need to lookout for:

Successful relationships. What kind of relationships do you have? Are you able to keep good and genuine relationships or are you still trying to determine who your true friends are? Do you have trouble keeping relationships? Do you have problems dealing with people, altogether, both in the personal and professional level? The truth is that relationships are tough to handle. Some people will be experts on it but not everyone will know how to do things right.

Survival against your struggle. Struggles come, and no matter how hard you try avoid it, it will come to haunt you and bring you down. How you react to struggles will define the kind of person that you truly are. Are you someone who works with grace, even when under pressure or do you lose control?  If you want to be able to survive life’s challenges, you must have the will, the determination, and control over your thoughts and actions.

High self-esteem. Not a lot of people have true confidence in themselves. Many will need a little push from friends and family, and others will require constant reminders to believe in their own capabilities. If you have true confidence and belief on what you can do and achieve, then you have truly grown into the individual that you ought to become. You do not need to seek the approval of others. You do not care about what others say about you. You are whole and no one can bring you down.

Completeness. One is complete when all aspects of his or her life is satisfied. You know that one has achieved the true level of growth that they aspire, when they got to where they ought to be, without needing to compromise anything. You are complete when you are satisfied; and you are satisfied, when you are truly happy.

Physical growth, which is the more obvious kind of growth, is easy to measure. What is difficult to measure is personal growth, and it is the one that truly matters. Personal growth is important because it will help you achieve great things in life. More so, it is the one that defines you, for who you truly are.

Building Confidence-Different Techniques

Have you ever looked at other people, friends, acquaintances, people you don’t even know and said “I wish I could be like them!” People who are outgoing, happy, confident and ready to take on the world. They seem to have it all and many times it has nothing to do with their physical self, but about how they project themselves to others. What is it about them that draws people to them?  Self Confidence! When you don’t have confidence you don’t put yourself out there, you settle because you don’t think you are good enough for better, you tend to be the one sitting in the corner at gatherings while everyone else is having a good time.

On the flip side of the coin, people that are confident generally get the best jobs and are invited to all the parties. This most likely happens because they present themselves well and people are just naturally more drawn to those with a confident demeanor. It may not be the easiest thing in the world to build self-confidence, but it’s certainly possible to do. Have a look at the following techniques to help you gain self-confidence:

Embrace yourself, warts and all: The first thing you must do in your quest for self-confidence is to accept yourself. If you don’t believe in yourself or what you’re capable of, you’ll never have the confidence that you need. Learning to accept yourself before you do anything else will help you feel good about yourself.

Join in workshops and seminars: When you take relevant seminars and workshops as well as participate in other activities, you can learn from these as well as meet new people. Ask questions of the speakers and leaders. Spend time talking with the other people there and have fun! Workshops can be particularly effective when it comes to developing confidence.

Seek inspiration: Look for inspiration. This can be in the form of a person, goal, pet, or anything that inspires you. Inspiration can provide motivation to look and feel your best while aiming to achieve dreams. Remember that only confident people are successful ones.

Learn from mistakes: Everyone makes a mistake at some point in their lives. You can’t avoid it. However, these mistakes can be just as important as successes in that you can take away knowledge of how NOT to do things. That’s why they’re actually very useful in building confidence.

Keep a positive attitude: Stay optimistic about your life even when things aren’t so great. Life is meant to be enjoyed and there are solutions to all problems. You just have to stay strong and hold that belief in yourself.

Dress for success: Always go out of your way to look your best whenever you go anywhere. Be clean and neat at all times. Maintain good posture at all times because these are the people that stand out, appear more attractive and confident.

Most importantly, keep a high regard for yourself at all times. This will help you remain confident in yourself and your ability to get things done. Confidence will eventually help you achieve all of your dreams and life’s goals. You just need to do the things to build it and then keep it.

 

 

 

Physical Self Improvements

Many times Self Confidence has much to do with your physical self. It’s hard to improve yourself mentally when you don’t like what you see physically. In this case you need to look at yourself very really and honestly and make a checklist of what you want to improve, what you CAN improve and what might take a little more work or in some cases maybe even surgery. Aside from surgery there are ways you can “hide” certain things about yourself you don’t like too, but you need to start with a clean slate and be honest!

For instance, weight is an issue for many people in the world these days. In lots of cultures, people that are carrying a bit of extra weight are not considered to be attractive. It’s also in those same cultures that only thin people are considered beautiful. Whatever happened to just being healthy no matter what size that turned out to be for someone? First, consider that you’re not one of those cookie cutter people with a skinny body. Then stand in front of a full length mirror completely naked. If you don’t like what you see, start taking some steps to change. That means that you don’t get to hide in your house and never go out among people. It means you start changing.

If you happen to have a really bad case of acne, there are so many different products on the market today just for this, that you could probably spend an entire year just trying them all out. They’re not all going to work for you, but there’s a chance that one of them will. In the event that none of them do much for you, there are plenty of home remedies that will go a long way in reducing your problem. As a last resort, you may need to see a dermatologist to deal with the issue. The point is that there are many ways to change this part of your life if you really put your mind to it.

Some things such as birthmarks and scars may be more difficult to deal with or change. However, if you can’t change something like this, you can take advantage of one of the many types of makeup available these days and simply conceal this part of yourself that hinders your self-confidence. Something that you need to remember when you hide physical flaws like this is that once someone really likes you, a scar or birthmark isn’t going to drive that person away. All they need is to get to know the real you.

The real you is, after all, the most important part of this entire exercise. People that are beautiful and have such self-confidence that it practically drips off of them are often not beautiful on the inside. This can make you wonder if it’s even worth trying to compete against those people. Of course, it is! Because while you may not compare in physical beauty, once you’ve learned to let out your inner beauty and have become confident enough to really let it shine, you’re going to blow that soulless beauty right out of the water!